Hey, it’s Jay and Aaron here


Did you know that when Jay and I first started working out together, we were on the same schedule—but not the same page?

We showed up to the gym at the same time, but we weren’t actually training together. Jay had her own workouts, usually a mix of lighter weights and full-body circuits. She was consistent, no doubt—but I could tell something wasn’t clicking. Her goals were solid, but the path she was taking wasn’t giving her the progress she deserved.

As someone who thinks like a coach, I saw it before she did: what she really needed was a focused strength training plan—something built around progressive overload, not random effort. More importantly, I wanted us to support each other in the process. Not just be in the same space, but build something aligned.

Eventually, she saw it too. Once we committed to a shared lifting schedule, everything shifted.

Today, we follow the same weekly strength program. Our weights, pace, and modifications vary—but we move with the same intention. Some days, one of us lifts heavy while the other focuses on recovery. Other days, Jay adds in extra dumbbell work to elevate her heart rate while I stay the course on strength volume.

The key? We stay flexible, communicate openly, and back each other—especially when stress, hormones, or life throw curveballs.

This alignment hasn’t just made us more consistent—it’s elevated everything.

For Jay, lifting heavy has supported hormone health and bone density. For both of us, it’s improved metabolic function, energy, mental clarity and long-term resilience. But the biggest benefit? The strength it’s added to our relationship. Training with a shared plan has deepened our trust, accountability, and connection—even when our workouts look different.

This week, we’re sharing the 3-day strength split that got us in sync. It’s built to be flexible, customizable, and focused on momentum—not perfection. Because when your workouts align, so does everything else.

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🧠 This Week’s Shared Shift

Workout Alignment: Moving in the Same Direction

You don’t need to match reps, weights, or workout styles to train in sync.
But when your goals, schedule, and mindset align—momentum follows.

These days, Jay and I follow the same strength training split. Our workouts aren’t identical, but they’re intentional. We check in, adjust based on energy and recovery, and know we’re both working toward the same vision—even if our approaches look different day to day.

That shared direction is what changed everything for us.

This week, we’re inviting you to explore what training alignment could look like in your relationship—whether it’s a shared plan, a shared schedule, or simply showing up for each other with consistency and support.

Because the real strength? Comes from moving forward together.

📊 Why It Works

Couples don’t have to train together—but working out in sync can elevate more than just your health.

Why it works:

  • You keep each other consistent

  • You bond through shared effort (and a little sweat)

  • You move toward mutual goals—even if your methods differ

But what about couples who don’t train together?

Here’s what can hold them back:

  • Different fitness goals or energy levels

  • Scheduling conflicts

  • Need for independent time or self-care

  • Fear of competition or “unequal” progress

Your solution?
Focus on shared intent.
The alignment happens when you both commit to movement—whatever form that takes.

đŸ€ Do This Together

Follow our 3-Day Split Program
→ Customizable for strength, toning, or active recovery

Structure:

  • 3 strength days/week

  • Active recovery on non-lifting days (walk, stretch, mobility, sauna, or fun movement)

đŸ—“ïž Day 1: Push (Chest, Shoulders, Triceps)

Goal: Build upper-body pressing strength + definition

Sample Workout:

  • Barbell Bench Press — 4 sets x 6–8 reps

  • Dumbbell Shoulder Press — 3 sets x 8–10 reps

  • Incline Dumbbell Chest Press — 3 sets x 10–12 reps

  • Lateral Raises — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Triceps Overhead Extension — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Triceps Rope Pushdown — 3 sets x 15–20 reps

đŸ—“ïž Day 2: Pull (Back, Biceps)

Goal: Strengthen posterior chain + build arm definition

Sample Workout:

  • Pull-Ups or Assisted Pull-Ups — 3 sets x 6–10 reps

  • Barbell Bent-Over Rows — 4 sets x 8–10 reps

  • Lat Pulldown — 3 sets x 10–12 reps

  • Dumbbell Bicep Curl — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Hammer Curl or Rope Curl — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Face Pulls — 3 sets x 15–20 reps

đŸ—“ïž Day 3: Legs + Core

Goal: Build lower-body strength and core stability

Sample Workout:

  • Barbell Back Squat — 4 sets x 6–8 reps

  • Romanian Deadlifts — 3 sets x 8–10 reps

  • Walking Lunges — 3 sets x 10 reps per leg

  • Leg Press — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Hanging Leg Raises — 3 sets x 12–15 reps

  • Weighted Planks — 3 rounds, 30–60 seconds each

⚡Customizing It to Your Level or Goal

  • For Strength Gains: Choose heavier weights (RPE 7–9), 60–90 sec rest between sets

  • For Toning/Endurance: Lighter weight, higher reps (12–15+), 30–45 sec rest

  • Beginner? Reduce to 2–3 sets per exercise or cut 1–2 movements and focus on form

  • Advanced? Add supersets, slow eccentrics, or intensity techniques (e.g. drop sets)

How We Adapt

  • Jay: Heavier weights for legs, glutes, and back; lighter weights + higher reps for shoulders, arms, and triceps (for better mind–muscle connection and joint longevity)

  • Aaron: Prioritizes progressive overload and strength-based rep ranges across all muscle groups

  • Both of us: Stick to compound lifts as the foundation—squats, deadlifts, presses—for total-body strength and efficiency

We don’t always train side by side—but we follow the same structure. It helps us stay consistent, aligned, and connected—even if one of us is in the gym and the other is stretching in the sauna.

💡 Stat Boost: Adults who strength train 2–3x/week experience a 15% lower all-cause mortality rate.

Why? Because muscle is metabolic, and it:

  • Regulates blood sugar

  • Strengthens bones

  • Improves longevity and energy

  • Fuels confidence and discipline

And for couples?
It is one of the most underrated tools for building trust, consistency, and mutual respect.

💬 Couple’s Check-in Prompt

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How do our current workout routines help—or hinder—each other’s energy and consistency?

Syncing isn’t about being the same. It’s about showing up in a way that supports you both.

📈 Momentum Marker

This week’s small shift:
Pick 2–3 aligned workout days. Whether you’re lifting together or just sharing the same time block, let your routines run in parallel.

Because when your actions reflect your shared priorities—progress compounds.

🔁 TL;DR: Your Shared Shift Recap

You don’t have to work out together to be aligned.
Shared structure = shared momentum.

Follow a 3-day strength training split
(Push / Pull / Legs + Core) and use active recovery in between.

Customize intensity and volume based on your goals
→ Go heavier for strength. Go higher-rep for toning. Keep rest days active.

Strength training 2–3x/week = 15% lower mortality risk
Muscle is your metabolic armor—for energy, blood sugar, and bone health.

This week’s goal: Align on your weekly plan—even if you train separately.

Let’s build your foundation—side by side.

— Jaylene + Aaron

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🌿Sync Your Wellness. Align Your Goals. Thrive Together.

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