Overcome Decision Fatigue

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👋 Happy Friday Ladies and Gents,

Let me know if this scenario sounds familiar to you: It's been a long day, and you're exhausted. You've been standing in the aisle at the grocery store, staring at the products on the shelves, trying to figure out what to make for dinner.

If only they'd jump into your cart and tell you, "Don't worry, we have dinner covered." Wouldn't we all love a fairytale moment like that?

The fantasy is funny. The decision fatigue behind it is not.

Wondering what to make for dinner is real. It's the slow drain of a thousand small choices that led up to this point.

That's where I was on Wednesday.

And yes, it happens to the best of us. Even me. But having a system changes the outcome, and I have good news for you today. Not just because it's Friday, but because I'm giving you something that will be useful to you in moments like these.

This is for you. The ones who always make dinner, the once-a-week dinner makers (who have zero clue what to make), and the recipe-savers (who have no intention of ever using all the recipes they save). My hope is that you use this before your next trip to the store and pass it on to a friend.

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Last week, I ran a poll on Instagram to see how my followers felt about:

• their relationship with food

• whether they cooked from scratch or used packaged foods, and

• when they found it hardest to eat clean

Most of the answers were different, but the problem was the same: the hardest time to eat clean and make something healthy was when life gets too busy.

The poll validated that this wasn't a personal failing. It was a system problem.

When we’re stressed and feeling overwhelmed, it's harder to make better food choices. (Science agrees.) We most often choose the convenient, easier options rather than the healthy foods that will take time to prepare.

Which is exactly why so many of us end up thinking: "If only someone did all the work for me."

Our brain's self-control mechanism is like a phone battery. Every decision you make during the day drains a little bit of that battery. What to wear, what to reply to that email, what to do with the kids, what meeting to schedule. Each one costs something.

By the time you get to dinner, the battery is low. And it's especially low if you're the one who always makes dinner. Why? Because you're the one who's been charging everyone else's devices all day (the kids, your partner, work, household duties), and your battery is now at 3%.

You don't even have the bandwidth to make a good decision.

And yet, the one at 40% doesn't even think about the decision that needs to be made, but is the one who always asks the "what's for dinner" question. Fun, huh?

When the battery is low, your brain stops doing the hard work of thinking ahead. It stops asking "what should I eat?" and starts asking "what requires the least effort right now?"

You don't need me to tell you that decision fatigue is a real cognitive load, or that food is one of the heaviest contributors in a shared household.

Jeremy Ethier, a certified personal trainer and fitness YouTuber known for his evidence-based training and nutrition, ran an experiment in which he had two people follow the same diet for 30 days.

It’s been called "The World's Most Boring Diet."

Jeremy calls it the CPB Diet because it consists of eating only chicken, potatoes, broccoli, and carrots. The purpose was to determine if reducing food variety could naturally lead to a calorie deficit through increased satiety and less desire to overeat, and to measure how much fat could be lost under these conditions.

The key principles behind this diet were to trick the brain's food reward system into being less stimulated by eating bland, repetitive foods. Ingredients high in protein and fiber were chosen to maximize fullness and maintain muscle during fat loss. Through the Elimination Strategy, the diet was designed as a strict reset to eliminate processed foods, liquid calories, and artificial sweeteners.

I am not suggesting that you follow this diet because you need to lose weight.

But there are some things that came out of this experiment that I know will ease stress around food decisions and help you eat healthier. Jeremy Ethier's CPB experiment shows what happens when you remove the variable entirely.

Boring works because the brain stops fighting.

The participants showed improved mental clarity and reduced decision fatigue around food.

Wouldn't this feel great?

So is the CPB diet for you? For most people, one week is worth finding out.

Keep in mind the CPB framework (chicken, potatoes, broccoli, carrots) was used as a reset, giving the participants' relationship with food a new baseline.

We are going to do the same thing, but the goal isn't to reset your relationship with food. It's to reset your brain.

Without further ado, here is your simple one-week meal plan. It follows the CPB food combination rules, but the variety is endless. No, wait, we don't want that. This is what creates decision fatigue in the first place. Alrighty, then.

Let's get back to basics.

The goal is to give you a simple, repeatable system for the next month.

The next time you're standing in that aisle, you won't be staring at the shelves wondering what to make. You'll already know. Your Done-For-You Dinner Plan is ready and waiting.

The store isn't going anywhere. Neither is the decision fatigue, unless you do something about it first.

[Download Your Done-For-You Dinner Plan]

Not sure where to start? Take the Sync Quiz™ to see where your biggest system gaps are as a couple.

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Enjoy the weekend!

💛 Jaylene & Aaron, Sync & Thrive Team

P.S. Week two of the plan drops Tuesday. One new ingredient, same simple structure. You're going to want to stay tuned. 🥗

P.P.S. If there’s a dynamic in your relationship you’d like us to explore, send us a note at [email protected]. Many of our best topics start with reader conversations.

🖊️ Most of what we write about lives inside four everyday areas of life together: how we move, how we eat, how we connect, and how we reset.