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đ Happy Friday Ladies and Gents,
Some seasons of marriage feel like growing alone.
You are lying there, your partner asleep beside you, turning over the same question: how do you keep becoming who you are without leaving them behind?
You are choosing the early morning workout, the healthier meal, and the walk when it would have been easier to stay in the easy chair. You are moving in the right direction even when it meets resistance, and that is what leading looks like.
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Why Your Partner Is Resisting â and Why It Has Nothing to Do with Love
What your partner may not realize is that change is just as painful for the person making it.Â
Your partner has not yet felt the weight of time they did not use. That moment of reckoning, the one we wrote about here, has not arrived for them yet. And that gap alone creates distance between you.
On top of that, your partner may think you are becoming a fanatic.Â
They begin to question their own choices and internalize everything. Before long, it feels like your new habits are a personal attack on the life you built together.
It comes out as "you don't love me anymore," "you're different," or "you're not the person I married."
Do not take these words personally.Â
This is an emotional response to the changes you are making. Your partner lives within their personal walls, and right now, your growth is rattling those walls.
Here is the thing about resistance. It is not personal, even though it feels that way.Â
Psychology Today points out that resistance to change is one of the strongest psychological forces a human being can experience.Â
Your brain is doing its job, protecting what feels safe and familiar, and reading anything unfamiliar as a threat.
Your partner is in one of these three places:
