Fitness & Marriage: What We Wish We’d Known 3 Years Ago

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Hey, there!

If we could sit down with our 30-something selves, here's what we'd say: Cancel those wine club memberships and get a gym membership instead.

We know, we know – after a long day at work, the last thing you want to do is exercise. It feels counterintuitive. You're already tired, why would you make yourself more tired? But here's what we wish we'd understood then: working out after work actually gives you more energy, even though it doesn't feel like it in the beginning.

Three years later, we've learned some things about fitness and marriage that we wish someone had told us sooner.

What's Inside

• 🧠 This Week’s Shared Shift

• 🔁 TL;DR → Skip the wine clubs, invest in your bod …

• 📊 Why It Works

• 🤝 Do This Together

• ⚡ Customizing It to Your Level or Goal

• 💬 Real Talk: Couple's Check-In

• 📈 Momentum Marker

• ✋ One more thing…

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🧠 This Week’s Shared Shift

We'd tell our younger selves that creating sustainable habits is easier than you think – it just takes consistency and self-discipline. And most importantly, that you are capable and worthy of having a healthy body. You'd be in a much happier place mentally and physically.

We still have a lot of work to do, but we're healthier and stronger and able to show up better for each other and others. But here's what really hit us: it wasn't just that we were physically stronger. We had mental clarity from that dopamine hit after our morning workout. We'd literally dumped our stress at the gym instead of on each other. That thing that might have annoyed me about Aaron earlier? Suddenly it felt... insignificant. We'd co-regulated through movement, and now we had energy and patience for what actually mattered.

This is the transformation that goes unnoticed until you're living it: good health becomes your lever to everything else. Like Archimedes said – give me a lever long enough, and I can move the world. Physical strength gives you the mental and emotional leverage to show up as better partners, to have more energy in your 70s and 80s, to choose what deserves your attention and what doesn't.

🔁 TL;DR → Skip the wine clubs, invest in your bodies

Here's what three years of consistency taught us: Physical strength creates a ripple effect that touches every part of your relationship. When you're not exhausted all the time, when you're dumping stress at the gym instead of on each other, when you have the energy to say yes to adventures – everything shifts.

📊 Why It Works

Here's what really caught our attention when we started digging into this: strength training influences every aspect of your relationship in ways you might not expect.

The Confidence Factor: A 2024 study on adults found that resistance training increased participants' sense of efficacy in their ability to "execute a lift safely" and perform complex exercises without feeling like they will get injured. When you feel capable in your body, that assurance naturally spills into how you communicate, how you handle conflict, and how you approach challenges together.

Stress & Anxiety Relief: A comprehensive meta-analysis found that resistance exercise training significantly improves anxiety symptoms among both healthy participants and participants with a physical or mental illness. Lower stress levels mean you're more patient with your partner, less reactive during disagreements, and better able to stay present during important conversations.

Better Sleep = Better Everything: A systematic review found that chronic resistance exercise improves all aspects of sleep, with the greatest benefit for sleep quality. And we all know what happens when we're both well-rested – more patience, better moods, and yes, more intimacy. If you want to improve sleep for better fitness, strength training might be your secret weapon.

But here's our favorite part: you end up relying on each other in workouts the same way you rely on each other in life. Aaron spots me during bench press the same way he supports me through a tough work week. I cheer him through his last set the same way I encourage him when he's pushing toward a goal. It's about being each other's co-pilot mindset for couples' health – partnership in action.

Learning how to support your wife's fitness journey (or your husband's) isn't always intuitive, but it's one of the most powerful ways to strengthen your bond.

🤝 Do This Together

This week, add one strength session to your schedule. Just one. We're not asking you to become powerlifters overnight.

Option 1: The Living Room Session (20 minutes)

• Partner 1 does bodyweight squats while Partner 2 holds a plank

• Switch: Partner 1 holds a plank while Partner 2 does bodyweight squats

• Both do wall sits together and see who can hold it longer (competitive couples, this one's for you!)

• 5 minutes of jumping jacks together

• High knees together

• Finish with some gentle stretching

Option 2: Gym Class Adventure

• Try a beginner strength class together – most gyms offer "Strength 101" or similar

• Don't worry about looking perfect; focus on learning and laughing together

• Looking for more ideas? Check out these fitness date ideas for couples that make working out feel like quality time

Option 3: Home Equipment Mini-Session

• If you have dumbbells, resistance bands, or even just water bottles, do a simple circuit

• 3 exercises, 3 sets each, lots of encouragement between sets

The magic isn't in the specific exercises – it's in moving your bodies, supporting each other, and celebrating small wins together.

⚡ Customizing It to Your Level or Goal

If you're complete beginners: Start with bodyweight movements and focus on form over intensity. The goal is to feel accomplished, not destroyed. Remember, it's all about celebrating small health wins along the way.

If one of you is stronger: The stronger partner can do harder variations (full push-ups vs. knee push-ups) or add extra reps. Make it about personal progress, not comparison.

If you have injuries or limitations: Modify everything. Chair-supported squats, wall push-ups, resistance bands – there's always a way to build strength safely.

If you're already active: Challenge yourselves with a new movement pattern or slightly heavier weights, but do it together.

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💬 Real Talk: Couple's Check-In

On your next walk, ask each other:

We loved hearing each other’s perspectives on this question.

This isn't about comparing where you are now versus then. It's about sharing the wisdom you've gained – about energy, patience, confidence, priorities. 

📈 Momentum Marker

You'll know this shift is working when the small things start feeling easier – not just physically, but emotionally. When you choose to work out instead of pouring that second glass of wine. When you have patience for a conversation at 9 PM instead of just wanting to zone out. When you realize you're making choices your younger self would be proud of – whether that's about fitness, nutrition, or finding a balanced diet for couples that actually works for your lifestyle.

These aren't dramatic overnight changes. They're the quiet compound effects of consistency that add up to a completely different way of living – and loving – together.

💌 What's Coming Next Week

Strong bodies create strong minds, which create strong partnerships. It's really that simple – and that powerful.

Next week, we're diving into how your individual health choices ripple out to strengthen your relationship in ways you might not expect.

✋ One more thing…

Hit reply and tell us: If you could go back 5 years, what health habit would you tell yourselves to start immediately? We read every response and love featuring your stories and wins in future newsletters.

Until our next issue, lift something heavy together, celebrate those daily wins, and don't forget to forward this to a couple who might need that gentle nudge toward better health.

Stay strong together!

Jaylene + Aaron

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P.P.S….Looking to align your health goals as a couple, prioritize your fitness and nutrition? Check out these top guides:

1. She's Your Wife, Not Your Gym Bro 

2. Be Their Health Co-Pilot, Not Their Coach  

3. The 1-Hour Habit That Builds Focus and Reduces Friction